Saturday, January 13, 2007

"Please wait. This may take several minutes."

Well, I appear to have finally successfully installed my highspeed internet service. The man at the mall who sold it to me said it would take 20 minutes to accomplish - for me it took 3 days. Yikes. But, I'm looking forward to hearing the music and seeing the videos that some of you use to embellish your posts.

Thanks to all of you who sent good wishes on behalf of my mother. Please know that your comments truly made a difference in helping me stay calm. She had been home for a week and doing relatively well - getting back into her routine and using some of the services avalable to the elderly in my home town. On Monday I was looking through my emails at work and saw one from my sister that said "Mom's on her way to the hospital again." I thought it was in my deleted items folder, but, it was current. Her 5th visit, and the buffoons in my hometown have sent her to a different metro hospitals each time.

They decided to do an interventional radiology procedure, threading a catheter up through her leg all the way into her head and injecting a compound that would seal off the mail vessel to the side of her nose that was bleeding. There was a 5% risk of stroke and 5% risk of blindness, but she agreed. So off I went to a huge surgical waiting area where there seemed to be a lot of drama going on. I noticed a frail elderly lady in a corner, sobbing into her hankerchief. I went over and asked if I could help. She said her husband was having emergency bypass and that her son was flying in from out of town and wouldn't be there for several hours. She was very frightened and confused about what to do with the pager she'd been given. It was heartbreaking, but I stayed with her until my pager went off and got the report that M's procedure had gone well and she would be sedated for several hours. I then returned to see if Helen needed anything more. She was a lot calmer and wanted to pay me for my help. Of course, I didn't take the money but did accept a tentative invitation for dinner once the Mr. was recovered.

So, my mother went home on Thursday and we are once again keeping our fingers crossed.

I am trying to put this all in perspective. We have Monday off for MLK day and someone at work said "well, Kathy, got big plans for the long weekend"? I felt like saying "don't you remember my mother is ill - how can I have plans for the weekend when the phone could ring any minute with bad news"? I recently saw an article on a mental health website on being "Addicted to Drama" - people who are so used to living on the edge that they are uncomfortable when things settle down. Maybe that's part of my problem - lookng at this as a potential life or death situation when it's actually just a natural part of the cycle of things - people get old and health deteriorates.

I got home that day and felt a deep sense of peace, until talking to one of my sisters who said that if "anything happened" as a result of the procedure, it would be all my fault - she had not agreed to it, thinking the risk was too big.
The next day, however, she'd settled down and seemed to have forgiven me.

Yesterday, in the evening, I realized that I'd forgotten to take my handful of oral meds that morning. I felt ok, my bp was 128/71, so it probably wasn't an end of the word situation in this case either.

So, on it goes. I'm hoping for some nice, uneventful days ahead.

26 comments:

Vivian said...

Kathy,
Good to have you back. I am so glad your mom is stable and hopefully that procedure did work and it will be much better now. I personally don't think you are addicted to drama, I think you love your family. There is a difference between drama we create and the potholes that life puts in our path. Please take care of yourself and know that we are all here if you need us.
Hugest of Hugs!

MileMasterSarah said...

I am glad your mom is doing well, but I can't imagine what you are going through with her being in the hospital so often. I would be beside myself. I don't deal with things very well initially. I am the one that freaks out, MAJORLY, and then calm down and manage to deal with things appropriately. At first though, when my mind is spinning, it feels like a life or death situation. That is so sweet of you helping the woman in the waiting room. I think you should take her up on dinner, it may be an awesome opportunity for new friendly relations. I myself don't get those that often. Rarely. I hope you are enjoying the cold, I've been freezin my bum off!

In Search Of Balance said...

I'm glad to hear that your mom is doing better. My mom was in the hospital last year, having a series of surgeries to fuse her spine, and I was in pieces the whole month she was there. I think that you're handling this awful situation beautifully, and your kindness to the woman in the waiting room is evidence of that.

I hope the days ahead offer continued health for your mom, and a rest for you. Best wishes, and my thoughts are with you and your family.

Beth

George said...

I am glad your mother is doing okay and I hope you have some non-drama days soon! I wonder sometimes if maybe Drama can just be addicted to people? Hmm.

And by the way, that was very sweet of you to calm the lady down in the waiting room. You are so great Kathy. Thank you for sharing that.

Chrissie in Belgium said...

Kathy - you are the best. There you are with all these problems and you are just helping others! I really am with you here about how difficult is is when parents are ill. Even if you get furious about things sith them, you still love them and totally crumble when they are ill. This has nothing to do with getting use to "drama". And your sister's comments were horrible. Sorry, but I do not get how people in a family can be so brutal with each other. The same thing happens in my family. Thank you for your emails, your book recommendations, etc etc etc I am trying to read through some of the blogs I have missed!

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Kathy,
I bought three jamocha shakes and 2 medium curly fries for dinner from arbys. I thought about trying the spicy southwestern egg roll, but with my tummy on revolt, i wasn't so sure about trying new things. The kids enjoyed the fries and they each had a shake, and me? I had a shake. The sugar is one thing that will reliably shoot my blood sugar up, although, I haven't bolussed for it. I've been bottoming out around this time and even without the bolus, so far the highest my sugars have been is 188. Not too bad. Weird sugars though.

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